How To Tell You’re In Danger From A Demon In Disguise (At Work, At Home Or Both)

by Simon Prades

Friend…

If you’re wondering why you feel lost in a cloud of chaos in your life and you can’t seem to hit your stride, no matter what you do… then listen up.

I’m going to be deliberately raw because I need to cut through the calcified crap that encases your mind… and time is a luxury you don’t have.

But lucky for you I’ve crossed over. I’ve been reborn. I’ve gone through the fire and come out the other side gleaming like gold.

And I have been kept down here to be your guide. My mission: to wake your a$$ up.

This is no time to pussyfoot around, this is serious. I have heard of many who have had attempts made on their lives.

Some of you have had the police come after you on false charges… I know all about that (sadly, many warriors have fallen because of it).

I know of warriors who’ve been drugged and had their food poisoned (serious).

I’m acutely aware that you will not see the truth straight away, it’s a process… but the list I’ve made for you below will get you started.

This is deeper than red-pill, it’s phase two of a global awakening.

You might want to read this in private.

Ways to tell you’re in danger from a toxic abusive demon in disguise, at work, at home or both (WARNING: Reading this may completely f&*k up your life)…

• “you don’t discipline the kids enough”
• constant digs about your appearance (including your facial features)
• zero interest in the sheets
• zero interest in your interests
• you get up and watch TV to 4am every other night
• you’re drinking more (when you watch TV to 4am every other night)
• hair’s falling out
• can’t lose weight (too much cortisol in your blood)
• losing muscle mass (too much cortisol in your blood)
• they hate when you go to the gym
• moved to marriage quickly
• moved away from family and friends soon after marriage
• completely new set of friends straight after marriage, all came through them
• it’s getting harder and harder to think clearly
• they’re jealous when you show affection to your kids (their kids)
• they can’t relax and do nothing
• they can’t sit still
• zero understanding of what you do professionally
• zero appreciation for what you do professionally
• your work ethic is superhuman (but you’re out to make them look bad)
• copies back to you what you said to them the day before
• copies to others what you said to them the day before
• hate when you have alone time
• never their fault… NEVER
• your first impression of them was bad but you gave them the benefit of the doubt
• lots of red flags in the beginning but you gave them the benefit of the doubt
• your friends weren’t keen but you gave it the benefit of the doubt
• didn’t seem like a friendly place to work but you gave it the benefit of the doubt
• paying all the bills AND doing all the school runs AND doing all the housework
• they have 2 or 3 phones
• they’re hyper-protective of their phone(s)
• they give you something nice but won’t tell you where they got it
• they don’t work but always seem to be able to buy things
• how they are in public isn’t how they are in private
• random fits of rage that leave you shell-shocked
• you change yourself to fix the inexplicable fits of rage and protect yourself from the shell-shock
• they never agree with you (not even on the smallest thing)
• they’re always texting someone
• never present/in the moment with you
• you try to engage at night, they’re on their phone
• you watch Netflix at night, they’re on their phone
• they check your eyes when you’re out and about, to see where you’re looking
• they badmouth women who are just as attractive or more attractive than them
• they badmouth men who are just as attractive or more attractive than them
• they badmouth businesses that are more successful than theirs
• they badmouth workmates who are more competent than them
• they always seem to surround themselves with friends who aren’t remotely as good looking as them
• “wow that guy has a really impressive build”, right in front of you
• “wow that chick has really nice…”, right in front of you
• something bad always seems to follow when something good happens to you (and they’re in the center of it)
• they’re always at war with someone
• it’s never about the solution, someone is ALWAYS to blame
• extremely calculating with money
• glaring double standards
• you’re doing some job completely misaligned with your original career dreams, it’s killing you AND you’re taking flak for it at home
• wedding ring wasn’t big enough
• wedding ring wasn’t expensive enough
• house isn’t good enough
• car’s not new enough
• the kids’ grades aren’t good enough
• your heart knows something’s wrong but your head can’t identify it (and you think it’s you that needs to change so you fall on your sword… trust me, it isn’t and that’s a BIG mistake)
• unkind comments about your daughter’s physical features (their own daughter, and she’s perfect… she’s the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen)
• always contemplating plastic surgery
• getting plastic surgery
• you’re always exhausted, inside and out
• your voice has changed, no power anymore
• you walk around on eggshells, at work and now at home or at home and now at work (low vibrations seem to be following you)
• extremely secretive with money
• their incompetence is breath-taking but you’re the dummy
• you were an A-grade student but you’re the dummy
• you’re professionally respected in your field but you’re the dummy
• their achievements “don’t amount to a pimple on your ass” (shout out to Jesse Cabrera a.k.a coach Chico) but you’re the dummy
• “you better start pulling your weight” (you do all the work)
• no feeling
• no emotion
• success is a formula, a technique, a trick
• “tell me your secret” (there’s no secret)
• “Monet had a formula”
• “Beethoven had a formula”
• “music is dumb”
• grandiose statements like “I could go out tomorrow and bring in $100k”
• fits of rage follow when you expose their incompetence
• “you’re so arrogant” when you expose their incompetence
• can’t bond with their own kids (your kids)
• merely existing drains them
• they’re always stressed out
• not a musical bone in their body but they hate your music
• zero personal preferences/taste but they hate everything you like
• they hate your brand of phone
• always bitching about their friends yet always staying friends with them
• always bitching about their workmates yet completely nice to their face
• they barge into the bathroom when you’re in the shower enjoying alone time
• they don’t respect your boundaries
• you can’t have any alone time
• sensing you’ve just about had enough, “I think I’m pregnant” (but you saw the blood they left in the toilet 3 weeks ago… they never flush properly)
• you fantasize about having alone time
• you take the long way home
• something in you dies every time you pull up and see their car in the driveway (it’s actually your other car)
• they hate your car, “it’s a money-pit”
• they enjoy poking fun at you a tad too much (just crosses over the line of affectionate ribbing, you know the difference)
• when you make a mistake, they’re all over it
• they’re still seething about the argument you had with them 10 years ago
• always holding your arm in public, zero affection when you get home
• they crashed the car because you didn’t do the brakes properly
• they crashed the car because “your son” distracted them from the back seat
• 3000 word, word salad emails follow every argument
• they left you, called the police on you, but now they’re emailing/texting you 5 times a week (it’s called the “hoover”)
• they left you, you were “useless”, but now they’re emailing/texting you 5 times a week (you were “grade A supply”, the best they ever had, and they will never stop looking for a way back in)
• “you will never see your kids again”
• badmouth you to your family
• must always be the center of attention in the office
• create crises then insert themselves as the savior
• zero loyalty to their friends
• zero loyalty to their family
• zero loyalty to their employees
• zero loyalty to their business partners
• they hate quiet
• they never follow through
• they always have an answer (it’s always bullsh!t)
• they blatantly insult your intelligence
• they don’t trust you (and now you’re starting to distrust them)
• you caught yourself adopting some of their toxic traits but you stopped because it didn’t feel good (you were subconsciously trying to bond with them, to join them, to win them somehow)
• they don’t trust anyone
• they’re always fighting with their family but always defending them to you (when you try to defend them… the bonding thing again)
• their health is inexplicably declining
• they have no real passions
• they have no real hobbies
• they haven’t developed any of their talents
• they always have to be out doing something, they’re “spontaneous”
• you’ve stopped doing the things you used to love doing
• they hate when you spend money on yourself (“you’re irresponsible with money”, they need full control)
• they hate when you spend money on the kids (“you’re irresponsible with money”, they need full control)
• birthday gifts for the kids have to be run by them
• a fit of rage followed when you bought your daughter a nice new bike for Christmas
• fits of rage follow if you email a supplier/contractor on a job that they’re in charge of without going through them
• they squirm like eels when something goes wrong at work on their watch
• they deny, deflect and project when something goes wrong at work on their watch
• “your son” did something wrong, never “our son”
• “your daughter” did something wrong, never “our daughter”
• “your daughter doesn’t have any friends, she’s like you”
• “your son is disobedient and arrogant, he’s like you”
• “the kids hate eating that” (they love eating that)
• can’t speak nicely, always yelling
• rope you into jobs where you will likely fail
• rope you into projects where you will likely fail
• rope you into investments that will likely fail
• you run the business and do all the work, they take all the profits
• they’re experts at spending other people’s money
• they need your answer now, simple yes or no, no time to think
• keen to collaborate, then they throw you under the bus
• they’re the head of department but don’t do sh!t
• they’re the head of department but have no idea what’s going on (and it’s your fault)
• they don’t understand your quarterly report because “you haven’t done your job properly”
• gave you a written warning for the most bullsh!t thing
• one of your children is the golden child, one of them is the scapegoat who can do no right
• one of your workmates is always employee of the month, you’re the scapegoat who can do no right
• fits of rage when you show signs of succeeding
• “silly Daddy”
• always asking if they look nice (they truly can’t tell)
• always asking if they look nice (measuring your response)
• fake confidence
• hate that you can see through their fake confidence
• hate you that you have real confidence
• continue to lie when you catch them in a lie
• they cover lies with more lies
• your calmness/confidence = “arrogance”
• OTT reactions to minor problems at work
• OTT reactions to minor problems at home
• they re-gift gifts
• they re-gift the gifts you gave them
• they re-gift the gift you gave your daughter for her 4th birthday, to their niece
• did they give you grandiose gifts in the beginning (made you slightly uncomfortable)?… yeah they were re-gifted
• they never let the kids wear the clothes your mum bought them
• everyone has to jump on their latest hare-brained marketing initiative (but they don’t do sh!t) and everyone’s nervous because they know it’ll fail
• everyone has to jump on their latest hare-brained management initiative (but they don’t do sh!t) and everyone’s nervous because they know it’ll fail
• they say your ideas are sh!t, then use them behind your back
• your business partner says “your idea will never work”, then starts a business dedicated to it behind your back
• boss extracts everything from you, then fires you and puts their son in your place
• they sent their entire army into Russia, in winter
• they’re a service provider that can’t provide service unless you give them COMPLETE AND TOTAL CONTROL
• their fee structure penalizes you if you try to break free and have control
• they hate that you have your own money
• they hate when you go cycling
• they hate to see the kids having fun (esp. with you)
• “happy wife happy life” is their favorite saying (if you’re their husband)
• it’s all your fault
• it’s all your kids’ fault (and since they’re “your kids” it’s all your fault)
• they can’t read social settings and they make inappropriate comments that embarrass you (but you say nothing because you don’t want to hurt their feelings)
• deer in the headlights look when you say things they don’t understand (which is often)
• zero EQ
• lots of “friends”, zero relationships
• they change their friends like they change their underwear
• they worship money
• they worship people with money
• they hate their parents
• challenging the pastor = “you’re having a spiritual battle”
• they’re drawn to conflict like flies to sh!t
• they cannot be alone

Warrior, this isn’t even scratching the surface.

Listen, these idiots are everywhere — they outnumber us and their numbers are growing by the day.

They are no match for you, they never were and they know it.

But the longer you stay in this entanglement, at work, at home or both… the greater the danger you’re in.

Wake up warrior!

It’s time to weaponize your empath power.

To your peace…

Nick Hardman